I broke up with Facebook


One of the first things anyone can learn about me if they go on one of my social media accounts is that I’m a Republican. Although, to be honest, I don’t love using that term now. How about Conservative? Lover of Ronald Reagan?

Anyways, I’ve always been super open and honest about my political (and religious) view points. One of my favorite things on the planet is talking to people with opinions that are completely different than mine. Yes, I’ll admit that younger Megan just liked to try and prove people wrong (who didn’t at 18), but I’ve learned that the only way we’re ever going to make things better is by being open and honest with each other.

So going forward, just know that I’m a Bible thumping, Pro-Life, Police Supporting, 2nd Amendment loving Elephant.

Please be laughing. 

But recently I realized that there was a part of me being sucked out,
there was this pit in my stomach.
maybe an ache for humanity.

Every time I got onto Facebook.

I think we can all agree that lately, things are getting super heated in our country. And there’s a big line and division being drawn. It…well it sucks.

When things happen anymore, it’s either you’re pro this or pro that. You either side with these people, or those. You either stand, or kneel.

And we all (including myself here) forget that we’re all just Americans…we’re all just humans.
Who are allowed to have different opinions. Everyone is so damn defensive anymore.
Still including myself here.

But it’s because we’re passionate about things. I’m super passionate about the Pro-Life movement and find myself irate at people who are pro-choice. And that’s not right, I know this. I know that there are people who don’t have the same views as I do.

And so last week after the shooting in Charlotte I just couldn’t take it anymore. I was astounded by the amount of people, and let me be even more specific, Christian women who have a giant platform, who were pointing their fingers. Placing blame before we even knew the whole story.

And that’s wrong.

I am so sad to see where social media has gone. In a time that should be for searching for answers, or trying to understand, we point fingers. Instead of being a place to go to gather information, it’s the most biased place out there.

And while yes, we’re all entitled to our opinions, and have the beautiful privilege of sharing them…it’s how we’re doing that. It’s the language we use. The words we say.

Please know that there have been plenty of times in the last six months that I have gone a-wall on Facebook with my opinions on things. Begging people to stop supporting movements that are killing the police. Being super vocal about a certain candidate running for President who should be in jail…there I go again. See how easy it is? So maybe I’m taking this break to shut myself up.

A couple months ago I went through and deleted 324 people off my friends list. I had realized that I A) didn’t know some of them B) hadn’t spoken to them in 4+ years or C) I couldn’t keep seeing their posts about hating the police. Now yes, I know you can “Hide” things from your timeline, tried it but they kept coming back. And with the removing of friends, I went in and Unfollowed a lot of pages.

But it wasn’t enough.

I couldn’t take it anymore. So I broke up with Facebook.

Now some of you might thing I’m just being small minded, and can’t handle things.
Maybe you’re right.

But I’m deciding that instead of continually seeing things that piss me off, or make me so sad…I just got rid of it. I’m making the choice to get rid of something that isn’t making my life any better, or pointing me in the right direction.

Yes. Let’s be clear here I had this “But wait! Delete your Facebook, Megan?! How will you survive???”
Look at me, surviving and stuff without it.

I still have Instagram and Snapchat. I’m not a monster.

But I’m taking this giant breath of fresh air, and running with it.

With the election coming, it’s only going to get worse. I know that, and so do you. If you can take it all, friend I am applauding you down here. But I can’t.

I have no idea when, or if I’ll go back. Turns out you can “Deactivate” your Facebook in case you ever want to go back.

Right now, I’m ok with just saying, “It’s not you, it’s me.”




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  • I am very passionate about my political views, but I completely respect people with different opinions than me, and I even enjoy discussing those opinions. But I’m having a hard time with the Facebook posts as well. It comes across like yelling, like shouting, like preaching, when people post hateful things on their walls, on both sides of the political spectrum. Facebook just isn’t the place for political discourse. I had to unfollow a bunch of people who I felt were posting hateful things, but I love your idea of taking a Facebook break. It honestly feels like all my friends do on Facebook is share political posts lately without realizing that they probably aren’t changing any minds.

    • Same here! I LOVE talking to people with opposing views, and it has happened on my FB a couple of times, but not enough to out weigh the other crappy comments people have made. I hate so much we’re in this “you’re on this side or that side” anymore. And yes. No one is changing ANYONES minds at this point, which is also ok, but when we get all crazy about it, it’s just exhausting!

  • Erin

    I’m with you, girl! Facebook is honestly a crappy/ugly place to be right now. If people were civilized that’s one thing… but we know they aren’t! People are hateful and rude and I hate seeing all the crap people post right now. My FB is actually pretty tiny and I try to keep it to just family/close friends which helps- but there is still plenty of garbage to scroll past.

  • Go girl. You do whatever is going to give yourself the most peace! This is DEFINITELY the time to do it! Facebook hurt my heart too at one time (I was bitter and angry and social media was making things worse) so I broke up with it too then. Deleted the whole darn thing. That was in 2009 and I didn’t get it back until I had to for my job in 2014. And when I did come back I had major boundaries with it — no facebook app on my phone (although I do have the Messenger app to keep in touch with only those that I choose to); very rarely do I go on the computer to scroll through, and when I do, it’s usually for a specific purpose. Don’t be afraid to get a little crazy with boundaries. They’re so good at keeping us free.

    • That is SO good, friend. It just felt like I was getting suffocated from something that I was choosing to be on. While I love seeing pictures of friends and their cute kids *cough you cough* there are other ways for me to stay in touch. It is hard to just bite the bullet though and say “ok no” when every one else is on it allll the time. But so far, I’m ok haha